Have you ever wondered how some people seem to get everything they want, while others struggle to make it through each day? Well, I’ll let you in on what some people have coined The Secret.
Recently my husband and I bought and moved into a new house. As many of you know the economic times we are in are less than stellar. In terms of real estate, it certainly is a buyers market. However, we did not let the doom and gloom of market analysts prevent us from selling our house so we could buy another.
We decided we wanted to move away from the big city and into one of the surrounding towns. We approached our house hunt with the attitude that we were not forced to sell our house in the city, and that the house we wanted had to completely meet all our needs.
After a few months of shopping, we finally found a house that both Ry and I loved. It met all our needs, as it is a nice big bungalow with enough bedrooms for all of us, and enough space to harbor all our big items like our piano, hutch and pool table. From the moment we walked in the house, we knew it was going to be our home. To get us all excited about our house, we started to call it our daughter’s dancing house so even Reika would be excited about our new home.
Our last house was a house we had built, and of course was the house that we had brought our 2 beautiful children home from the hospital to. In the past I have been one to hold onto the emotional value of things. This time around I knew I had to let go of my emotional tie in order to get the house we wanted. I thanked our house for providing us with shelter, and decided I would always have the wonderful memories.
From the moment we listed our old house, we started to visualize it selling quickly. We believed we had a unique house, as it was a walk-out bi-level in amongst a community full of 2 stories. We thought we’d be getting a ton of viewings, but we only seemed to have a smattering here and there on the weekends. We were trying to figure out why our house wasn’t selling. Our realtor suggested we lower our price, and we weren’t all that keen on doing so.
Instead of getting discouraged, I decided to use a visualization technique mentioned in Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses Begone. I made myself a list. The first thing I put on my list was that we were worthy of our house. We were moving back to Ry’s home town where his parents still live. They of course wanted us to be moving for the right reasons, and not moving there because they were there. We were moving because we wanted to move. I wanted to raise our kids in a smaller community where they would be close to schools. At the current inflated prices of housing in the city, the city was unable to provide us with that opportunity.
Next on my list was that we were going to sell our house quickly and close to our target price. The average house in our area was selling for about 60 days. We managed to sell our within about 45 days and for just under our target low. We were fortunate that we had bought our house before the boom, so in the end we did make money on our house.
Then I wrote down that we were going to move in before Christmas. We were prepared to get some interim financing so we could move our essentials to our new house to be able to host Christmas, then we thought we could slowly move the rest of our stuff over after Christmas. Well, it turned out the people buying our house wanted a quick possession, and also wanted to be in before Christmas. Since the house we were buying was vacant, we had no problems moving before Christmas.
I also wrote down that we were going to sell our house by November 15, 2010. The offer came in about a week from that date.
As well, I wrote that our home inspection was going to be well worth our time and money. Both our parents were concerned that we would have the home inspection and then someone else would end up buying the house we were after. Since we were buying an older home, we explained to them that we needed to do the inspection before we committed to buying the house. That way if there was something drastically wrong with the house, we would not have bought it. It turned out there was nothing wrong, and the home inspector informed us we had a solid house where no expense had been spared in building it or renovating it.
Once we lowered our price, the showings came flooding in. Ry and I actually joked that we would end up with a bidding war in the end. We did end up receiving 2 offers on our house, but decided to only accept the one.
One thing Wayne Dyer asks in Excuses Begone, “Is it true?” He asks how do you know for certain that the negative outcome is 100% true. You don’t. Therefore, why focus your attention on the negative, instead focus your attention on the positive, and positive results will happen.
Through our buying and selling experience I kept the positive attitude, even when those around me were tempting me with their negative thoughts. With a little determination, and a positive attitude, you can achieve anything.