Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.
Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.
Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.
After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.
My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.
I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.
Just as darkness resides in the light, light resides in the darkness.
In dark times, it is important to follow the light. The stars and the moon will light our way.
As an old Chinese proverb says, this to shall pass.
This is from a blog of mine I posted a few years back.
Imagine there’s no countries, It isn’t hard to do, Nothing to kill or die for, And no religion too, Imagine all the people, Living life in peace.. -John Lennon
We are all one. We are all the same. We all strive to be acknowledged and to be loved.
“If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself, if you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self-transformation.” – Lao Tzu
Lao Tzu puts it so elegantly. Why are we trying to fix those around us when it is us ourselves who are need of fixing. Look deep within yourself for change and watch how the world around you changes as you change yourself.
I noticed this when I returned from maternity leave at work. Certain people had left our group and were replaced by more calming people. After having kids my attitude had changed. I did not feel as stressed, and I had learned that you need to be flexible with your expectations when something out of the ordinary arises.
We teach our children from a young age to love one another and to share; yet as a society we have a difficult time doing that. Let’s set our differences aside and first learn to love ourselves, then portray that same love outwards to the rest of humanity. As the Bible and many other religions say, “Love thy neighbor as you would love yourself.” – Matthew 22:37-39.
The presidential election in the United States has created a whole pot of turmoil. People have become upset over the choice of electors in voting in President-elect Trump. Now I know Trump has made many racist remarks. Yet if we took his campaign slogan, Let’s Make America Great Again, we can turn this around to promote peace and love.
Now I’m not an American, however, my viewpoint of making America great should involve a coming together instead of pushing more further apart than ever before. We are all human. We may look different on the outside, yet we are all the same on the inside. We all bleed the same. We all want to love and be loved. All of humanity has the same basic instincts of survival. Making America great should involve setting our differences aside to come to build the country people see in their dreams. Take time to learn something about your neighbor. If you have a new neighbor, bring over a plate of cookies and introduce yourself. People do have a good side to them. Stop thinking that everyone is out to get you.
I pray for my American friends that they may find peace and love.
This title showed up on my News Feed on FB today. It is most certainly true. Even in our darkest hours we can still find something to be grateful for. It may at times be harder to think of. Even if it as simple as waking up alive.
Today I am grateful for the beautiful spring day we are going to endure. For the sunshine. For the happiness in the world. Today is going to be awesome! Have a fantastic day!
I was introduced to the song, Little Boxes on the Hillside, as a teenager and recently started to here it again. It is a powerful song about conformity written in the 1960’s. This song can still apply to us today. Perhaps we need to write a new verse.
All the people with their smart phones
With their heads bent quickly texting
All the people made of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same
It feels as though we are all drones living a life made out of ticky tacky all looking the same with our heads down stuffed in our phones. We are all told by some invisible “they” about how we are excepted to behave. We no longer think for ourselves. The ticky tacky is sculpted daily. We search social media looking for answers and dreaming of what our lives could be. We forget we are in charge of our life. We need to put down the phone and live and experience life instead of “liking” how other people live their lives.
Dare to be different and choose to shape your own ticky tacky. Dare to be the person you are meant to be.
I haven’t blogged in quite a while as I’ve been living a vida loca.
The summer started out with a BANG! My husband quit his day job to focus on growing his BBQ business. We thought we’d ease into it nice and slow. Yeah right! Instead we jumped into the deep end and have been treading water ever since.
Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for how well our business has been doing, and I’m excited every time Ryan tells me we have a new event or he made a new contact.
One thing I have learned over the course of this summer is it is important to take time out for yourself and your family. Our house has certainly not been spotless, and some nights dinner consists of sandwiches and snacks. Even if it is simply a few minutes here or there where you sit down and put up your feet for five minutes.
Some people fail to realize the effort that goes into running your own business. They think you have all this time to fit in side projects and do your day-to-day housework. They fail to realize that you may have gotten up at 6:30 am to put a load of meat on the BBQ before ushering your kids to swim lessons. They fail to realize you had to respond to a few phone calls and emails. They fail to realize you still need to run to the next town or city to stock up on supplies. If you simply get these few tasks done you feel like you’ve achieved a great day. Not to mention that you still need to be a parent and spend time with your kids. The wife works full-time and needs to be a mom and a helper with the business. Often times whisking the kids to bed then helping package BBQ. Not to mention working the Farmer’s market on weekends and helping to cater.
We make a great team. Yes we have our moments, yet we help each other to persevere through the tough spots so we can reap the rewards.
As mentioned, our house may not be stellar. Our lawn and yard may not be perfectly manicured. Projects that need to get done around the house may take a little longer to finish. That is my vida loca.
Just as your favourite movie or TV show has a theme song, I believe in life, we all have theme songs. When I first really started paying attention to this, I was a young adult fresh on my own travelling the wide open countryside between my new home and my old home. My theme song of choice back then was Wide Open Spaces by the Dixie Chicks.
Who doesn’t know what I’m talking about.
Who’s never left home, never struck out.
To find a dream and a life of there own
A place in the clouds, a foundation of stone.
Many precede and many will follow
A young girl’s dream no longer hollow
It takes a shape in a place out west
What it holds for her, she hasn’t yet guessed.
– Dixie Chicks
At one point in my life, my theme song resonated with Shania Twain’s, Honey I’m Home.
Honey I’m home and I had a hard day
Pour me a cold one and oh, by the way
Rub my feet, gimme something to eat
Fix me up my favourite treat.
Honey I’m back, my head’s killing me
I need to relax and watch TV
Get off the phone-give the dog a bone
Hey! Hey! Honey I’m home!
Today, my theme song fits more with Imagine Dragon’s On Top of the World, or American Author’s Best Day of My Life.
I had a dream so big and loud
I jumped so high I touched the clouds
– American Author
Cause I’m on top of the world, ‘ay
I’m on top of the world, ‘ay
Waiting on this for a while now
Paying my dues to the dirt
I’ve been waiting to smile, ‘ay
Been holding it in for a while, ‘ay
Take you with me if I can
Been dreaming of this since a child
I’m on top of the world.
– Imagine Dragons
Remember to “always look on the bright side of life…” – Monty Python.