Do not fear change

Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.

Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.

Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.

After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.

My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.

I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.


Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy

In the life of doom and gloom it can be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

During the holidays, friends of ours invited us to watch Dreamworks, The Trolls. This colourful movie depicits looking at the brighter side of life. 

We tend to be way to serious all the time. We need a reminder to hug, sing and dance once in awhile. It’s fun to let loose and be goofy. Dance offs are a regular occurrence in my household. In fact, my eldest daughter chooses to dance everywhere instead of walk. While my youngest is constantly singing.

I’d rather think that (the world) is mostly cupcakes and rainbows than be like you, all grey, all the time. – Dreamworks, The Trolls

Find something each day to put a smile on your face. Be grateful for what you have in front of you.

I’ll leave you with one more quote:

Happiness isn’t something you put inside you. It’s already there. Sometimes you just need someone to help you find it. – Dreamworks, The Trolls

The world needs more compassion.

In today’s society we are so quick to judge. If someone doesn’t behave the way we perceive how they should behave, we condemn them. This is the case in a newly elected MLA in our province. We recently had an election where the ruling party for the past 43 years had been overturned and a new government is taking office. Deborah Drever is one of the representatives of the new governing party. She has recently been publicly ridiculed over some photos posted on her Facebook page and now one of her in an explicit photo appearing on a heavy metal band’s album cover.

Every single one of us is doing the best we can. None of us have it all figured out… Do any of us want to be judged for our mistakes when we’re trying as hard as we can to be our best selves? The world doesn’t need more judgement. We need more compassion… “Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you.” When we make compassion a practice, we bless the world. – The Fear Cure, Lissa Rankin, M.D.

Miss Drever should be given a chance to redeem herself. We have not even given her a chance to prove herself as a worthy government official. Everyone at some point in their lives has done something they regret; no matter how big or small.

As Jesus said, “If any one of you is without sin, let him to be the first to throw a stone at her.” – John 8:7

Let’s stop dwelling on the past and move forward into the future. We need to figure out what lesson we need to learn here. Perhaps this is Miss Drever’s chance to stand up and prove to the world that she can be an excellent politician.

Happy New Year!

Well, we have survived yet another, and through yet another apocalyptic prophecy. Overall 2012 has been a fantastic year filled with adventure of both travel, and the everyday adventure of living with young kids.

For everything that has happened this year, it has opened more opportunities to allow our family to become closer and allow my husband and I to spend invaluable time with our kids.

I want to thank everyone who has been following my blog, and welcome those who are new to my site.

For the new year, my goal is to blog only once a week, as I feel this will be a better fit with my lifestyle and will keep my blogging more consistent. I will make it the Wednesday Wisdoms, as Wednesday is a good day to receive some much needed motivation/inspiration to push you through the rest of the week.

I wish everyone a Happy New Year and here’s to a fabulous 2013!


What is the worth???

My husband and I had a conversation this weekend on worth. He was explaining he was having some difficulty figuring out worth. For example, we have decided to make a bunch of our Christmas gifts this year. He is struggling with that fact for are we making the Christmas gifts due to finances being tighter in our household; or is it simply out of love? I told him most of the gifts we are making, I still would have made regardless had he had a job or not. What do you buy the person who has everything? If you’re somewhat crafty, why not make something with love that may be of some use to someone instead of giving them just another toy, or a gift card, or something they really don’t care about and would turn around to exchange or re-gift, etc.

Another scenario explained to me was about our cell phones and other gadgets. Did we really need iPhones and an iPad, etc? We decided the iPad has been worthy for us, as Ryan uses it for his business, we’ve used it on trips, and have used it for those few times we needed to entertain the kids. Our phones on other hand, did we really need an iPhone or other smart phone? Not necessarily. I usually use my to check email, or my WordPress stats, or Facebook, along with the occasional call or text. Aside from calling and texting, I could easily use our iPad for the rest of it if I didn’t want to fire up the computer. So in essence, did I really need an iPhone?

Also, about our phones in general, we decided earlier in the year to get rid of  our home phone. We had found a cell phone provider that had a plan that suited our needs and would give us the long distance plan we needed. Now did we really each need a phone? Part of me said yes, for if we were to go to one, Ry would have to carry it, and then what would happen when I went out-of-town by myself, which happens usually once a month?

Then comes a question, what is your time worth? In a job, you’re asked to write a proposal and you bill yourself out at an hourly rate. Since you don’t have a lot of experience on this particular topic, you take your time, do some research, and ponder what you want to write. You bill this out at 2 hours. While someone who is more familiar with the topic, it may only take them a half hour to do the job. What is the worth? If you’re paid a salary, you’re generally paid for your 8 hours a day, or whatever your contract states. If one piece of your job took 15 minutes to do, while another piece took you several days to complete, you’re still paid the same.

How your time is split between family and work is another question? Do you quickly squeeze some work in on the weekend when that is supposed to be your dedicated family time? Or do you prioritize and make a decision the issue can wait until Monday to deal with, then make it a priority during regular work hours. Mind you if you are on call and being paid to look at the problem on the weekend, that is an entirely different story.

Are you worthy of receiving a gift you could not even imagine ever to reciprocate? Are you worthy of winning the lottery? Are you worthy of a second chance of life? What is worth? Is it monetary, or is it different for each situation and each person?

Some deep thinkin for you on this Monday morning!

Clean your room!

This is the quote from my daily calendar sitting on my desk:

In order to practice meditation, first clean your room. – Insight from the Dalai Lama

I find this quote to be so true. When we have a clean room/house/etc, we are able to concentrate more on the task at hand. Living in a clean room brings a certain peace of mind and can allow the creative juices to flow. I have often heard when you want to be wealthy, first declutter your life.

I’ll admit, I don’t live in a spotless house, and most of the time my house is quite lived in. Yet even for me I get to a point where I need to go on a cleaning rampage in order to feel better. There is something to be said of having a clean space. Although, sometimes it is simply wishful thinking.

I am grateful I cleaned my house this weekend!