Another Life Lesson

Last night I watched Steve Jobs: One Last Thing. It is a documentary on the incredible man who helped change the world. I was struck by a quote.

You are told the world is the way it is. Your life is just to live your life inside the world and try not to bash into the walls too much… Everything around you, you call life, was made up by people no smarter than you… The minute you understand you can poke life…and you can change and mould it. That is maybe the most important thing.

We are all in charge of our own lives. We are the “master builders”. When we think the world is out to get us, we can be pushed down and end up being our own demise in the making. Yet when we choose to be grateful and to seek the tiniest positivity in the bleakest moment; a whole new world can flourish. The seed of positivity that is planted will survive and flourish amongst the destruction should we choose to believe in ourselves.

It is not the world that is out to get us; it is our own mind when we let the “dark side” consume our thoughts. Yet when we can balance the yin and yang magical things can appear. As I have heard from scholars such as Dr. Wayne Dyer, “I will see it, when I believe it.”

The world is your canvas, what will you paint?

Music to soothe the soul

My husband is a big music buff, and he taught me to listen to the lyrics. Once I started doing that there is so much meaning in songs.

One of my favorite songs is Katy Perry’s Firework.

Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed

So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road

Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow

And when it’s time you’ll know

You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine

Just own the night like the 4th of July…


A Song to Make you Happy

The other night I was in a bad mood. I had fallen into the vortex. Later that evening I realized I hadn’t received my dose of Happy that day. My daughters love to dance, and my youngest loves Pharrell Williams’ Happy.

Here comes bad news talking this and that, yeah

Well, give me all you got, and don’t hold it back, yeah

Well, I should probably warn you I’ll be just fine, yeah

No offense to you, don’t waste your time

Here’s why

Because I’m Happy…

We all need to remember to get our Happy on.


The whole picture

I was reminded recently that we need to remember to look at the whole picture before jumping to conclusions. Too often we look at tiny snippets and make rash decisions based on this small pieces of the facts. When we decide to take a few extra minutes to analyze the bigger picture, we can make a much more informed decision.

Spread Your Wings and Fly With Some Kindness

It was the second day of school. Our oldest daughter came home and was irritable. I thought it was because she was tired. I was tired, and hungry and getting frustrated with the full blown temper tantrum our little sweet cake was throwing. She was upset because my husband and I wouldn’t play with her. We wouldn’t play with her as we were trying to fix a leak near on of our chimneys that had sprung earlier that morning.

She was sent to her room to sit out her tantrum while we dealt with the attic. My husband and I were getting quite frustrated with her. When I finally had a few minutes we sat down and cuddled together. When I finally got her calm, I found out the root of the problem. No one played with her at recess.

The lesson I learned is we need to be patient with our children no matter how much they try our patience. By remaining calm and acting out of compassion we were able to solve her problem. The next day went much better as she learned she may need to ask to play with some of her friends.

Problems can be solved as long as we’re willing to stop and listen to one another.

Spread your wings and fly

This week embarks another school year. For our family it is a new milestone. Our oldest daughter starts Grade 1 at a school new to her. She is very excited as she already knows many friends from day care and dance. I think Mom and Dad are more nervous.

A friend of ours is a teacher at the school and we are doing a child swap in the mornings. We’re dropping off our daughter while picking up her daughter to take to preschool. Our friend offered to make sure our daughter makes it to the playground. My husband was nervous about leaving her at the playground. It would only be for about 10 minutes before the bell rings. For me I’m willing to let my little bird spread her wings and learn to fly. It is time.

In the eyes of a child

This is your midterm exam. You have 30 minutes to write…
…He hands us a paragraph that reads:
A self-actualized man arrives at a dinner party which everyone is dressed in rather formal attire. Evening dresses and suits and ties are worn by everyone. He is wearing a pair of dungarees, tennis shoes, a T-shirt, and a baseball cap. What does he do?
…After Dr. Redl has listened to each of us, he picks up his briefcase and slams it down on the seminar table in feigned indignation and outrage at our answers. “You have all failed this course…All you had to do was write three words on your paper.” He takes his chalk in his hand, turns around to the blackboard, and writes in large letters: HE WOULDN’T NOTICE.-Dr. Wayne Dyer, ICan See Clearly Now

As I read this passage I thought about the fashion sense of my children. They are both very individualized, and they both have their own sense of style. My oldest is more girly and likes to wear dresses and skirts; while my youngest daughter, for the most part, is more comfortable in a pair of leggings and a T-shirt. When they are given the freedom to choose their outfits and dress themselves, some of the combinations are certainly interesting. To them, they are proud of themselves and could care less about their clashing color choices. They “don’t notice.” To them, they are dressed in their favorite clothes and they are happy.

As I’m thinking about this, I believe we are all born with the great potential of becoming self-actualized people. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-actualization is to realize fully one’s potential.

Young children live in the now. They are generally happy beings full of imagination and potential. They can be anything they want to be.

Yet somewhere in life we lose that luster, and becoming self-actualized can become more difficult. We are shaped into a mould by society. We are forced to conform into the common beliefs. We are shunned if we wear something considered outrageous and out of the norm. Somewhere in life many of us lose that sense that we can be anything we want. We have had limits placed around us, and many people find it difficult to break past those limits.

What if we nurtured the self-actualizing behavior in children from a young age? Teach them to be individuals. Teach them the world is their oyster. Imagine all the possibilities that could come. Imagine children coming together to solve the world’s problems with love, compassion and passion. Imagine all the people, living life in peace. – John Lennon

We can do this. We can teach our children to become self-actualized. We can teach our children to find their full potential. We can one day live together in harmony with each other and in harmony with the Earth.

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