You are in charge

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I have been listening to quite a few podcasts lately. All with a recurring theme of you are in charge of your life and your happiness.

Although it may be with good intentions and done because someone loves and cares about you; we often times receive advice that may not always resonate with dreams. It can also be difficult to stand up and follow your dreams when those around you are trying to differ your thoughts.

Wes Moore, on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, made an excellent point. Stop making those who don’t matter too much, matter too much. This message was given to me a few years ago as well by my counsellor. She told my husband and I that the decisions we make only affect those living under our roof. Other people were welcome to share their opinions, yet ultimately we had to do what is best for our family.Another of my favourite podcasts is Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft’s Happier. If you follow Gretchen, you would have heard of her Four Tendencies. According to the Four Tendencies, I am an Obliger. This suits me to a tee. Always doing what I think is going to make other people happy. Always following the rules and doing what I’m told is right. Doing what I truly want to do is often put on the back burner or kept as a dream. There are some ideas I have that I would like to pursue that I know I will be judged and criticized for. As well, my husband and I are working on a big life altering project right now. Which again, is met with some judgement and criticism from some. Although, it is also met with a lot of excitement and well wishing from others.

At that, I will leave you with this quote: All your dreams may come true if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney

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Do not fear change

Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.

Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.

Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.

After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.

My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.

I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.

Living the dream

I recently read an article regarding self-esteem of business professionals. This certainly hits home. 

My husband and I own a business. Being an entrepreneur has certainly come with it’s own set of challenges. One challenge is being a self-motivator. As an entrepreneur, you do not always have people around to remind you of the great job you’re doing. There can be times when you are working long hours alone. Sometimes, the people we expect to be our greatest cheerleaders are not. It is very humbling when a cheerleader appears out of the blue from the people you least expect.

Being an entrepreneur can certainly be an emotional roller coaster. During the low times, it is important to keep trudging one step in front of the other. 

As hard as it may be, you sometimes need to be your own cheerleader. You also need to be accepting of those unexpected cheerleaders.

Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long.

We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.

– Walt Disney

https://bodymindinstitute.com/the-impact-of-lacking-self-esteem-on-business-professionals/

Another Life Lesson

Last night I watched Steve Jobs: One Last Thing. It is a documentary on the incredible man who helped change the world. I was struck by a quote.

You are told the world is the way it is. Your life is just to live your life inside the world and try not to bash into the walls too much… Everything around you, you call life, was made up by people no smarter than you… The minute you understand you can poke life…and you can change and mould it. That is maybe the most important thing.

We are all in charge of our own lives. We are the “master builders”. When we think the world is out to get us, we can be pushed down and end up being our own demise in the making. Yet when we choose to be grateful and to seek the tiniest positivity in the bleakest moment; a whole new world can flourish. The seed of positivity that is planted will survive and flourish amongst the destruction should we choose to believe in ourselves.

It is not the world that is out to get us; it is our own mind when we let the “dark side” consume our thoughts. Yet when we can balance the yin and yang magical things can appear. As I have heard from scholars such as Dr. Wayne Dyer, “I will see it, when I believe it.”

The world is your canvas, what will you paint?

Music to soothe the soul

My husband is a big music buff, and he taught me to listen to the lyrics. Once I started doing that there is so much meaning in songs.

One of my favorite songs is Katy Perry’s Firework. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGJuMBdaqIw

Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed

So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road

Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow

And when it’s time you’ll know

You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine

Just own the night like the 4th of July…

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A Song to Make you Happy

The other night I was in a bad mood. I had fallen into the vortex. Later that evening I realized I hadn’t received my dose of Happy that day. My daughters love to dance, and my youngest loves Pharrell Williams’ Happy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6Sxv-sUYtM

Here comes bad news talking this and that, yeah

Well, give me all you got, and don’t hold it back, yeah

Well, I should probably warn you I’ll be just fine, yeah

No offense to you, don’t waste your time

Here’s why

Because I’m Happy…

We all need to remember to get our Happy on.

 

The whole picture

I was reminded recently that we need to remember to look at the whole picture before jumping to conclusions. Too often we look at tiny snippets and make rash decisions based on this small pieces of the facts. When we decide to take a few extra minutes to analyze the bigger picture, we can make a much more informed decision.