The stillness within

Right now I’m reading Don’t Die with your Music Still in You, by Serena Dyer and Dr. Wayne Dyer. There is a chapter regarding silence and meditation that truly speaks toy heart right now. Our lives are so full of noise. In fact, I know when my kids have taken my phone and are playing games on it as I can hear the music to the games from down the hall.

My youngest daughter had a birthday party at a friend’s farm a short while ago. I drove her out there and relished in the peacefulness for the brief couple minutes. It was so calm and quiet without the bustle of the surrounding metropolis. For me, I feel more rejuvenated when I enter a state of peacefulness.

I just returned from a trip to Las Vegas. Las Vegas is something far from quiet and peaceful. Every corner you turn you are met with flashy lights and noises. Traffic, the casinos, people trying to sell you something. It was a fun trip, yet I am still paying the price for having gotten run down. Now my body is craving a sense of calm and peace. Not to mention, whole foods again.

It is important to take time and go within. That is where you become one with your intuition. Embrace the silence and enjoy the peace.



In the eyes of a child

This is your midterm exam. You have 30 minutes to write…
…He hands us a paragraph that reads:
A self-actualized man arrives at a dinner party which everyone is dressed in rather formal attire. Evening dresses and suits and ties are worn by everyone. He is wearing a pair of dungarees, tennis shoes, a T-shirt, and a baseball cap. What does he do?
…After Dr. Redl has listened to each of us, he picks up his briefcase and slams it down on the seminar table in feigned indignation and outrage at our answers. “You have all failed this course…All you had to do was write three words on your paper.” He takes his chalk in his hand, turns around to the blackboard, and writes in large letters: HE WOULDN’T NOTICE.-Dr. Wayne Dyer, ICan See Clearly Now

As I read this passage I thought about the fashion sense of my children. They are both very individualized, and they both have their own sense of style. My oldest is more girly and likes to wear dresses and skirts; while my youngest daughter, for the most part, is more comfortable in a pair of leggings and a T-shirt. When they are given the freedom to choose their outfits and dress themselves, some of the combinations are certainly interesting. To them, they are proud of themselves and could care less about their clashing color choices. They “don’t notice.” To them, they are dressed in their favorite clothes and they are happy.

As I’m thinking about this, I believe we are all born with the great potential of becoming self-actualized people. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-actualization is to realize fully one’s potential.

Young children live in the now. They are generally happy beings full of imagination and potential. They can be anything they want to be.

Yet somewhere in life we lose that luster, and becoming self-actualized can become more difficult. We are shaped into a mould by society. We are forced to conform into the common beliefs. We are shunned if we wear something considered outrageous and out of the norm. Somewhere in life many of us lose that sense that we can be anything we want. We have had limits placed around us, and many people find it difficult to break past those limits.

What if we nurtured the self-actualizing behavior in children from a young age? Teach them to be individuals. Teach them the world is their oyster. Imagine all the possibilities that could come. Imagine children coming together to solve the world’s problems with love, compassion and passion. Imagine all the people, living life in peace. – John Lennon

We can do this. We can teach our children to become self-actualized. We can teach our children to find their full potential. We can one day live together in harmony with each other and in harmony with the Earth.


When you have a choice to be right or kind, always pick kind. Living from your highest spiritual sense is the essence of what it means to be a self-actualized person. – Dr. Wayne Dyer, I Can See Clearly Now

Who am I?

Recently I have been down the path of “Who am I?” These thoughts wander into my mind from time to time. I’ve been interested in a career change lately. An opportunity has come up. I thought to myself at first, “Don’t be silly, you can’t apply. They are looking for 3 years experience.” Then the angel on the other shoulder replies, “Go for it. What the other is saying is only an excuse. You can do it. Look at your strengths you currently have. Heck, when you first applied to be an accountant they were looking for 3 years experience and you only had a few months. You can do it!”

In this I was reminded of the Dr Wayne Dyer book my children have, No More Excuses. Every negative thought I had I asked myself “is this true.”

I then thought back to my childhood dream if being on the high school basketball team. The first year I tried out I missed the cut. Devastated, my mom suggested talking to the coach to see what I could do to make the team the next year. I held up my chin and weakly asked what I could do to improve. The next year I was on the team.

I decided to be proactive and find out what qualities I may need to travel down the less beaten path in my life. Bringing my Girl Guide self to be prepared. We will see in the near future where my fate may lie.

We are choosers of our own fate. And I am choosing mine!

It’s time to face your fears!

Everyone of us has some kind of fear. It could be any one of the common phobias, like arachnophobia, claustrophobia, a fear of heights, a fear of falling. It could be more complex like a fear of what people think of you. It is time to face your fears! Fears are only dark feelings conjured up in your head. As Dr. Wayne Dyer states in his book Excuses Begone, “do you know it is 100% true?” I love this line from the wonderful Danielle Redner who I was honored to meet, “What is the worse that can happen, they can tell you to F$*% off!”

I subscribe to receive emails from the universe through This was my email for today:

Dwelling on the unimportant, stressing on the unintended, and freaking over the unknown, Jen, simply doesn’t work… and are a bit like lighting a match in a dark room to make sure no one accidentally sprinkled any gunpowder on your bicycle, kept under the stairs, near the back porch, in January.

Actually, some of that wasn’t really important, but hopefully it distracted from any stigma you may have attached to freaking over the unknown.

You’re so adorable,
The Universe

I love these emails, as they are pretty much bang on every time I receive them.

I decided to face some of my fears. In order to make my business grow, I need to start talking to people. I have no problems putting my words into writing, it is the over the phone or in-person conversations of which I dread. As I mentioned in my blog about the life lessons from My Little Pony, you need to learn to be yourself. When you are passionate about something and truly believe in it, then why not stand up for yourself and your friends. When you act like yourself, and be honest with people, they in turn respect you and appreciate you for who you are. When you try to act like someone you’re not, people can see right through the lies.

Your life is your own. Make it your own, and do it your own way. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. I choose to make some follow-up calls today to ensure my customers were happy. As Stella & Dot tells us in our training, it is about planting seeds. I look forward to the day I can harvest the bumper crop. It takes time, and I have faith, and patience is always testing me.

The thought that just crossed my mind was thinking of superheroes. Hearing the tag line: Have no fear… is here. And then remembering a motivational speaker my parents took me to see who kept singing the Mighty Mouse song, “Here I come to save the day! Mighty Mouse is on the way!”

For 2012, lets forge forward and be fearless in our quest.

Have no fear!

On Monday evening, I had the pleasure of meeting the beautiful Danielle Redner from Stella & Dot. She had an amazing speech, and put out there, “if you had no fear, what would you do in 2012?”

With the New Year right around the corner, what are your plans for the year? Have you always wanted to try skydiving, yet are afraid of jumping out of a plane? Have you wanted to pursue a new business endeavor, yet have been afraid of success or failure? Have you wanted to embrace your inner self, yet have been afraid of self-discovery? Lets set our fears aside and challenge ourselves to step out of our comfort zone and see where we can go.

Wayne Dyer puts it nicely, “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.

Remember there are times when we feel as though we want to quit. As Winston Churchill said, “Never, never, never give up.”

Imagine what the world would be like if we all gave up when the goings got tough. When there is something you truly believe in and want to pursue, pursue it to the end. Make it your passion. Most times it is our own selves that hold us back. Instead of focusing on the words of the non-believers, refocus on achieving your dream. “When you feel like denying your dream is when you must deepen your devotion to your dream.” – Robin Sharma.

Here’s to a fearless 2012. What dreams are going to be achieved?