I have been listening to quite a few podcasts lately. All with a recurring theme of you are in charge of your life and your happiness.
Although it may be with good intentions and done because someone loves and cares about you; we often times receive advice that may not always resonate with dreams. It can also be difficult to stand up and follow your dreams when those around you are trying to differ your thoughts.
Wes Moore, on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, made an excellent point. Stop making those who don’t matter too much, matter too much. This message was given to me a few years ago as well by my counsellor. She told my husband and I that the decisions we make only affect those living under our roof. Other people were welcome to share their opinions, yet ultimately we had to do what is best for our family.Another of my favourite podcasts is Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft’s Happier. If you follow Gretchen, you would have heard of her Four Tendencies. According to the Four Tendencies, I am an Obliger. This suits me to a tee. Always doing what I think is going to make other people happy. Always following the rules and doing what I’m told is right. Doing what I truly want to do is often put on the back burner or kept as a dream. There are some ideas I have that I would like to pursue that I know I will be judged and criticized for. As well, my husband and I are working on a big life altering project right now. Which again, is met with some judgement and criticism from some. Although, it is also met with a lot of excitement and well wishing from others.
At that, I will leave you with this quote: All your dreams may come true if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney
Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.
Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.
Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.
After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.
My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.
I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.
I recently read an article regarding self-esteem of business professionals. This certainly hits home.
My husband and I own a business. Being an entrepreneur has certainly come with it’s own set of challenges. One challenge is being a self-motivator. As an entrepreneur, you do not always have people around to remind you of the great job you’re doing. There can be times when you are working long hours alone. Sometimes, the people we expect to be our greatest cheerleaders are not. It is very humbling when a cheerleader appears out of the blue from the people you least expect.
Being an entrepreneur can certainly be an emotional roller coaster. During the low times, it is important to keep trudging one step in front of the other.
As hard as it may be, you sometimes need to be your own cheerleader. You also need to be accepting of those unexpected cheerleaders.
Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long.
We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.
– Walt Disney
My husband is a big music buff, and he taught me to listen to the lyrics. Once I started doing that there is so much meaning in songs.
One of my favorite songs is Katy Perry’s Firework. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGJuMBdaqIw
Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow
And when it’s time you’ll know
You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July…
…dreams are made possible if you try. – Terry Fox
Last night I was reminded to try. Our youngest daughter can be somewhat destructive. She broke one of her sister’s things, and I was reminded to try to fix it. What harm can come out of it? Either it’s fixed or it’s not. It is now fixed.
We need to learn to believe in ourselves. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will believe in you.
Learn to rely upon yourself. Take total responsibility for everything that comes into your life. You always have a choice in how you react to anything life offers you. – Dr. Viktor Frankl
One of the songs my kids like right now is Everything is Awesome from The Lego Movie. I had it stuck in my head the other monring as we had been listening to it the night before. I was then checking my emails, and my message from the Universe was: “Everything in your life, right now, is awesome…” – TUT…A Note From the Universe. I gave myself a chuckle and thought, okay, what is the Universe telling me today; obviously, everything is awesome.
It got me pondering again about life and our roles in it, and about The Lego Movie. We are all master builders of our own lives, and there comes a time when we need to think outside the instruction manual. Sure we can go through life doing what “someone” has claimed is the “right” thing to do. Yet there comes a time where we need to start thinking for ourselves, and build our lives “free style”.
When there is something going on we don’t like, take a chance to change it. Follow your dreams and find a way to make those dreams a reality.
The meaning of life is that it is to be lived, and it is not to be traded and conceptualized and squeezed into a pattern of systems. – Bruce Lee
Everything is awesome!!!!