You are in charge

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I have been listening to quite a few podcasts lately. All with a recurring theme of you are in charge of your life and your happiness.

Although it may be with good intentions and done because someone loves and cares about you; we often times receive advice that may not always resonate with dreams. It can also be difficult to stand up and follow your dreams when those around you are trying to differ your thoughts.

Wes Moore, on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, made an excellent point. Stop making those who don’t matter too much, matter too much. This message was given to me a few years ago as well by my counsellor. She told my husband and I that the decisions we make only affect those living under our roof. Other people were welcome to share their opinions, yet ultimately we had to do what is best for our family.Another of my favourite podcasts is Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft’s Happier. If you follow Gretchen, you would have heard of her Four Tendencies. According to the Four Tendencies, I am an Obliger. This suits me to a tee. Always doing what I think is going to make other people happy. Always following the rules and doing what I’m told is right. Doing what I truly want to do is often put on the back burner or kept as a dream. There are some ideas I have that I would like to pursue that I know I will be judged and criticized for. As well, my husband and I are working on a big life altering project right now. Which again, is met with some judgement and criticism from some. Although, it is also met with a lot of excitement and well wishing from others.

At that, I will leave you with this quote: All your dreams may come true if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney

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Do not fear change

Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.

Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.

Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.

After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.

My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.

I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.

Living the dream

I recently read an article regarding self-esteem of business professionals. This certainly hits home. 

My husband and I own a business. Being an entrepreneur has certainly come with it’s own set of challenges. One challenge is being a self-motivator. As an entrepreneur, you do not always have people around to remind you of the great job you’re doing. There can be times when you are working long hours alone. Sometimes, the people we expect to be our greatest cheerleaders are not. It is very humbling when a cheerleader appears out of the blue from the people you least expect.

Being an entrepreneur can certainly be an emotional roller coaster. During the low times, it is important to keep trudging one step in front of the other. 

As hard as it may be, you sometimes need to be your own cheerleader. You also need to be accepting of those unexpected cheerleaders.

Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long.

We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.

– Walt Disney

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Let the Light Shine

Just as darkness resides in the light, light resides in the darkness.

In dark times, it is important to follow the light. The stars and the moon will light our way.

As an old Chinese proverb says, this to shall pass.

Strength

When we hit our lowest point, we are open to our greatest change. – The Legend of Korra 

My prayers and thoughts are with my fellow Albertans as they fight the fires up North in Fort McMurray. As a survivor of one disaster to another, you will get through this. Just as the Phoenix rose from the ashes, so will we. #ABstrong
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Tiny little dots

 

Have you ever looked closely at a comic picture? The picture is made up of thousands of tiny dots. Up close it doesn’t look like much, yet step back and view the whole picture, and the scene comes to life.

Life can be like this too at times. Often we are so rushed that we end up only looking at each tiny dot on its own. We forget about the back story and we forget about the other dots that make the picture whole. We are quick to make judgements based on appearances alone.

Everyone is woven together into one big picture. Each of us is a dot in the masterpiece of life. Together, we make a beautiful piece of art.

Picture courtsey of: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roy_Lichtenstein

A Cup of Good Cheer

I believe what everyone needs this holiday season is a cup of good cheer. I don’t necessarily mean indulging in alcohol either.

This holiday season has felt challenging and for most of the month I have felt like, what my husband calls, the bahhumbug Grinch. We had been dealing with some issues that were causing great anger in me, along with needing to watch our finances a little closer. This toppled with the fact that we hadn’t hung our Christmas lights on the house, nor had we gotten a tree. I was also behind in my usual Christmas baking.

Then finally like a puzzle, all the pieces started to fit together. We got our issue to a point where we can enjoy some quality family time. A neighbour suggested to drape some lights in our bushes since I was too chicken to climb up onto the roof. We eventually got a Christmas tree set up. I got a bit of baking done. Then we hosted our annual Christmas party. For the past few years my oldest daughter has hosted a Christmas party. We invite a few of her friends and their families. This year we had 2 families join us and we had an awesome evening. The evening was filled with friends and good cheer. It was exactly what the bahhumbug Grinch needed to grow her heart.

It is all too easy to get wrapped up in the gift giving. Trying to figure out what to get the people who have everything and figuring if you can afford everything you want to do. We tend to forget the true meaning of Christmas. It is not about all the presents. It is about spending time with our loved ones.

Have a Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!