Just as darkness resides in the light, light resides in the darkness.
In dark times, it is important to follow the light. The stars and the moon will light our way.
As an old Chinese proverb says, this to shall pass.
The other day I could tell my daughter was feeling frustrated. She had dance practice and her teachers were harping on her again. I told her to accept the criticism, practice, and then show her dance teachers that she can be a rock star.
I feel in today’s society, we seem to take criticism hard. We are so used to having everyone lie to us that we are all perfect. In sports, each kid now receives a medal or a trophy of some sort for simply participating. Instead, we should embrace the criticism to learn and grow from our mistakes.
Not everyone is gifted. For some of us have to work harder to achieve our dreams. There are dancers who struggled and we criticized that have blossomed into the beautiful swan. Even Michael Jordan had to work hard to become the basketball star he became.
When we have a dream, we need to remember to keep moving forward toward our goals. It’s one foot in front of the other until we reach the finish line. No matter how much we feel like lying down on the ground and want to give up, we must persevere toward the finish line. In one of my last half marathons I ran, I felt like doing just that. I was over the half way marker when my legs felt like they wanted to quit. I had to will myself forward and ended up walking the last 6 km. I ended up with a new personal best on this race.
I leave you with this quote from Rihanna’s Diamonds:
Shine bright like a diamond
Shine bright like a diamond
Find light in the beautiful sea, I choose to be happy
…memory is a river, one that always runs backward. – The Spy, Paulo Coelho
Ever since I watched Disney’s Alice, Through the Looking Glass, I have been contemplating time. We are obsessed by it. When we are young, we can’t wait until we grow up. When we are old, we look back and reminisce about time gone by.
We worry about the future and stress about the past. We have a hard time focusing on what is happening right now. We are too busy being busy. We rush from here to there. We hardly stop to smell the proverbial roses. We rarely revel in the present moment.
I notice this when I’m watching my girls dance or at their school plays. Everyone is trying to video their kid performing. Yet how many of those amateur videographers actually enjoyed and remember the performance without going back to the video. I personally find when I try to video something, I’ so absorbed in the videoing, that I forget to enjoy the moment.
Many times we simply let time slip us by. Remember to savour the now and live your life to the fullest.
I believe what everyone needs this holiday season is a cup of good cheer. I don’t necessarily mean indulging in alcohol either.
This holiday season has felt challenging and for most of the month I have felt like, what my husband calls, the bahhumbug Grinch. We had been dealing with some issues that were causing great anger in me, along with needing to watch our finances a little closer. This toppled with the fact that we hadn’t hung our Christmas lights on the house, nor had we gotten a tree. I was also behind in my usual Christmas baking.
Then finally like a puzzle, all the pieces started to fit together. We got our issue to a point where we can enjoy some quality family time. A neighbour suggested to drape some lights in our bushes since I was too chicken to climb up onto the roof. We eventually got a Christmas tree set up. I got a bit of baking done. Then we hosted our annual Christmas party. For the past few years my oldest daughter has hosted a Christmas party. We invite a few of her friends and their families. This year we had 2 families join us and we had an awesome evening. The evening was filled with friends and good cheer. It was exactly what the bahhumbug Grinch needed to grow her heart.
It is all too easy to get wrapped up in the gift giving. Trying to figure out what to get the people who have everything and figuring if you can afford everything you want to do. We tend to forget the true meaning of Christmas. It is not about all the presents. It is about spending time with our loved ones.
Have a Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!
True happiness cannot be bought. It cannot be amassed at the sacrifice of others. True happiness is found within one self.
You cannot change another person to be happy. You cannot force another person to be happy. They must look inside to find their own happiness.
Everyone has a dark side. As much as everyone has a light side. The ying and yang seek to balance one another.
There will always be a battle between good and evil. What we must seek is the balance between the two.
Everyone can find their happy ever after if they are willing to seek it out.
I was introduced to the song, Little Boxes on the Hillside, as a teenager and recently started to here it again. It is a powerful song about conformity written in the 1960’s. This song can still apply to us today. Perhaps we need to write a new verse.
All the people with their smart phones
With their heads bent quickly texting
All the people made of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same
It feels as though we are all drones living a life made out of ticky tacky all looking the same with our heads down stuffed in our phones. We are all told by some invisible “they” about how we are excepted to behave. We no longer think for ourselves. The ticky tacky is sculpted daily. We search social media looking for answers and dreaming of what our lives could be. We forget we are in charge of our life. We need to put down the phone and live and experience life instead of “liking” how other people live their lives.
Dare to be different and choose to shape your own ticky tacky. Dare to be the person you are meant to be.
I haven’t blogged in quite a while as I’ve been living a vida loca.
The summer started out with a BANG! My husband quit his day job to focus on growing his BBQ business. We thought we’d ease into it nice and slow. Yeah right! Instead we jumped into the deep end and have been treading water ever since.
Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for how well our business has been doing, and I’m excited every time Ryan tells me we have a new event or he made a new contact.
One thing I have learned over the course of this summer is it is important to take time out for yourself and your family. Our house has certainly not been spotless, and some nights dinner consists of sandwiches and snacks. Even if it is simply a few minutes here or there where you sit down and put up your feet for five minutes.
Some people fail to realize the effort that goes into running your own business. They think you have all this time to fit in side projects and do your day-to-day housework. They fail to realize that you may have gotten up at 6:30 am to put a load of meat on the BBQ before ushering your kids to swim lessons. They fail to realize you had to respond to a few phone calls and emails. They fail to realize you still need to run to the next town or city to stock up on supplies. If you simply get these few tasks done you feel like you’ve achieved a great day. Not to mention that you still need to be a parent and spend time with your kids. The wife works full-time and needs to be a mom and a helper with the business. Often times whisking the kids to bed then helping package BBQ. Not to mention working the Farmer’s market on weekends and helping to cater.
We make a great team. Yes we have our moments, yet we help each other to persevere through the tough spots so we can reap the rewards.
As mentioned, our house may not be stellar. Our lawn and yard may not be perfectly manicured. Projects that need to get done around the house may take a little longer to finish. That is my vida loca.