Do not fear change

Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.

Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.

Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.

After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.

My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.

I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.


Everything is Awesome!

One of the songs my kids like right now is Everything is Awesome from The Lego Movie. I had it stuck in my head the other monring as we had been listening to it the night before. I was then checking my emails, and my message from the Universe was: “Everything in your life, right now, is awesome…” – TUT…A Note From the Universe. I gave myself a chuckle and thought, okay, what is the Universe telling me today; obviously, everything is awesome.

It got me pondering again about life and our roles in it, and about The Lego Movie. We are all master builders of our own lives, and there comes a time when we need to think outside the instruction manual. Sure we can go through life doing what “someone” has claimed is the “right” thing to do. Yet there comes a time where we need to start thinking for ourselves, and build our lives “free style”.

When there is something going on we don’t like, take a chance to change it. Follow your dreams and find a way to make those dreams a reality.

The meaning of life is that it is to be lived, and it is not to be traded and conceptualized and squeezed into a pattern of systems. – Bruce Lee

Everything is awesome!!!!


“How does one become a butterfly?” Pooh Bear asked. “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” Piglet replied. “You mean die?” asked Pooh. “Yes and no” Piglet answered. “What looks like you will die but what’s really you will live on.” – A. A. Milne

In loving memory of Jenifer Perico Chavez. May you have beautiful butterfly angel wings.

The Attitude of Gratitude

American Thanksgiving has recently passed, although we should make sure we are grateful everyday, and not just one day a year. This week there have been serveral things I have been grateful for. We had a big snow storm roll through the prairies this week and with it the temperatures plumetted. I was grateful for a snow day, as my car (which I nicknamed Santa’s sleigh) was in the shop. We braved the weather and picked it up in time to have for our winter driving.

I was also grateful to have the majority of our basement insulation finished, and also grateful for our furnace. There are still many people in our community who are without at least insulation, and a few still without furnaces. I am also grateful to be in my own home.

Whenever I have felt like I’ve been dipping into a downward spiral I start going through a gratitude list. Even if it only one small thing I can think of, it can often times turn a bad day into a good day. A good friend of mine was really struggling this week and was heading deeper into that spiral. I told her to think of at least one little thing to be grateful for. Even if it is something silly one of her kids did. And it helps.

Too often we forget to be grateful for the simple things. Even being grateful for being alive. We are where we need to be in each moment of time.

Thank  you for following my blog.

Happy New Year!

Well, we have survived yet another, and through yet another apocalyptic prophecy. Overall 2012 has been a fantastic year filled with adventure of both travel, and the everyday adventure of living with young kids.

For everything that has happened this year, it has opened more opportunities to allow our family to become closer and allow my husband and I to spend invaluable time with our kids.

I want to thank everyone who has been following my blog, and welcome those who are new to my site.

For the new year, my goal is to blog only once a week, as I feel this will be a better fit with my lifestyle and will keep my blogging more consistent. I will make it the Wednesday Wisdoms, as Wednesday is a good day to receive some much needed motivation/inspiration to push you through the rest of the week.

I wish everyone a Happy New Year and here’s to a fabulous 2013!


Happy Friday!

I don’t know whether the universe, with its countless galaxies, stars, and planets, has a deeper meaning or not, but at the very least, it is clear that we humans who live on this earth face the task of making a happy life for ourselves. Therefore, it is important to discover what will bring about the greatest degree of happiness. – Insight from the Dalai Lama

Go out and find your happiness this weekend! Happy Friday!

What is the worth???

My husband and I had a conversation this weekend on worth. He was explaining he was having some difficulty figuring out worth. For example, we have decided to make a bunch of our Christmas gifts this year. He is struggling with that fact for are we making the Christmas gifts due to finances being tighter in our household; or is it simply out of love? I told him most of the gifts we are making, I still would have made regardless had he had a job or not. What do you buy the person who has everything? If you’re somewhat crafty, why not make something with love that may be of some use to someone instead of giving them just another toy, or a gift card, or something they really don’t care about and would turn around to exchange or re-gift, etc.

Another scenario explained to me was about our cell phones and other gadgets. Did we really need iPhones and an iPad, etc? We decided the iPad has been worthy for us, as Ryan uses it for his business, we’ve used it on trips, and have used it for those few times we needed to entertain the kids. Our phones on other hand, did we really need an iPhone or other smart phone? Not necessarily. I usually use my to check email, or my WordPress stats, or Facebook, along with the occasional call or text. Aside from calling and texting, I could easily use our iPad for the rest of it if I didn’t want to fire up the computer. So in essence, did I really need an iPhone?

Also, about our phones in general, we decided earlier in the year to get rid of  our home phone. We had found a cell phone provider that had a plan that suited our needs and would give us the long distance plan we needed. Now did we really each need a phone? Part of me said yes, for if we were to go to one, Ry would have to carry it, and then what would happen when I went out-of-town by myself, which happens usually once a month?

Then comes a question, what is your time worth? In a job, you’re asked to write a proposal and you bill yourself out at an hourly rate. Since you don’t have a lot of experience on this particular topic, you take your time, do some research, and ponder what you want to write. You bill this out at 2 hours. While someone who is more familiar with the topic, it may only take them a half hour to do the job. What is the worth? If you’re paid a salary, you’re generally paid for your 8 hours a day, or whatever your contract states. If one piece of your job took 15 minutes to do, while another piece took you several days to complete, you’re still paid the same.

How your time is split between family and work is another question? Do you quickly squeeze some work in on the weekend when that is supposed to be your dedicated family time? Or do you prioritize and make a decision the issue can wait until Monday to deal with, then make it a priority during regular work hours. Mind you if you are on call and being paid to look at the problem on the weekend, that is an entirely different story.

Are you worthy of receiving a gift you could not even imagine ever to reciprocate? Are you worthy of winning the lottery? Are you worthy of a second chance of life? What is worth? Is it monetary, or is it different for each situation and each person?

Some deep thinkin for you on this Monday morning!