You are in charge

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I have been listening to quite a few podcasts lately. All with a recurring theme of you are in charge of your life and your happiness.

Although it may be with good intentions and done because someone loves and cares about you; we often times receive advice that may not always resonate with dreams. It can also be difficult to stand up and follow your dreams when those around you are trying to differ your thoughts.

Wes Moore, on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, made an excellent point. Stop making those who don’t matter too much, matter too much. This message was given to me a few years ago as well by my counsellor. She told my husband and I that the decisions we make only affect those living under our roof. Other people were welcome to share their opinions, yet ultimately we had to do what is best for our family.Another of my favourite podcasts is Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft’s Happier. If you follow Gretchen, you would have heard of her Four Tendencies. According to the Four Tendencies, I am an Obliger. This suits me to a tee. Always doing what I think is going to make other people happy. Always following the rules and doing what I’m told is right. Doing what I truly want to do is often put on the back burner or kept as a dream. There are some ideas I have that I would like to pursue that I know I will be judged and criticized for. As well, my husband and I are working on a big life altering project right now. Which again, is met with some judgement and criticism from some. Although, it is also met with a lot of excitement and well wishing from others.

At that, I will leave you with this quote: All your dreams may come true if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney

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Do not fear change

Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.

Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.

Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.

After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.

My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.

I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.

Living the dream

I recently read an article regarding self-esteem of business professionals. This certainly hits home. 

My husband and I own a business. Being an entrepreneur has certainly come with it’s own set of challenges. One challenge is being a self-motivator. As an entrepreneur, you do not always have people around to remind you of the great job you’re doing. There can be times when you are working long hours alone. Sometimes, the people we expect to be our greatest cheerleaders are not. It is very humbling when a cheerleader appears out of the blue from the people you least expect.

Being an entrepreneur can certainly be an emotional roller coaster. During the low times, it is important to keep trudging one step in front of the other. 

As hard as it may be, you sometimes need to be your own cheerleader. You also need to be accepting of those unexpected cheerleaders.

Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long.

We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.

– Walt Disney

https://bodymindinstitute.com/the-impact-of-lacking-self-esteem-on-business-professionals/

Let the Light Shine

Just as darkness resides in the light, light resides in the darkness.

In dark times, it is important to follow the light. The stars and the moon will light our way.

As an old Chinese proverb says, this to shall pass.

Tiny little dots

 

Have you ever looked closely at a comic picture? The picture is made up of thousands of tiny dots. Up close it doesn’t look like much, yet step back and view the whole picture, and the scene comes to life.

Life can be like this too at times. Often we are so rushed that we end up only looking at each tiny dot on its own. We forget about the back story and we forget about the other dots that make the picture whole. We are quick to make judgements based on appearances alone.

Everyone is woven together into one big picture. Each of us is a dot in the masterpiece of life. Together, we make a beautiful piece of art.

Picture courtsey of: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roy_Lichtenstein

A Positive Vibe

Good morning everyone, and a Happy New Year!

This New Year has ushered in some positive vibes for my family and I. For our business, our phone started ringing. And random acts of kindness have appeared here and there at times when you least expect it.

With the acts of kindness, it has turned into a good life lesson for our kids. We have taught them you must be grateful for the gifts you receive and say thank you. When you try to say no thanks to one, yet you’d like another, that is the being selfish and greedy and defeats the purpose of the gift. Also, when you stop accepting gifts, the Universe will stop providing them.

If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. – Matthew 21:22

Miracles come when you least expect them. Remember, a watched pot never boils.

This is the day The Lord has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it. – Psalm 118:24

Have an awesome day and a Happy New Year!

Lesson in Gratitude

The other day I was given a lesson in gratitude. I was at the grocery store and had seen that pop (soda) was on sale. I decided to buy some, especially with it coming close to Christmas. I had really wanted a case of Coke to use as mix, and then something fun. The Coke was sold out. I decided to take a quick walk around the store to see if they had some on a special display. I could not find any. I decided to settle on Dr. Pepper and some root beer. While I was in line, I spotted a shelf that had a few cases of Coke left. I decided to exchange the root beer for Coke. I got home and took the groceries into the kitchen. I then noticed a trail of Coke all on the floor from my front door to the kitchen. I opened up the case in search of the leaky can and found a can with puncture marks on the bottom. My husband then reminded me it was Karma at play. I was not happy with what I had originally chosen, therefore, life took away a can.

There are many times when our lives can remind us to be happy and grateful for what we have instead of always wanting more or the latest and greatest. It reminds me of how our American neighbors celebrate a day of Thanksgiving just to stand in line to await the Black Friday sales the next morning. Did we not just finish giving thanks for all that we had? Do we really need to accumulate more stuff?

We need to be satisfied with our choices in life. We need to be grateful for what we have. We need to teach our children to be grateful instead of I want, I want, I want.

This is a picture of my child’s resourcefulness. She was thrilled to go through our recycling box to find supplies for her craft.

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Happy Wednesday!