I have been listening to quite a few podcasts lately. All with a recurring theme of you are in charge of your life and your happiness.
Although it may be with good intentions and done because someone loves and cares about you; we often times receive advice that may not always resonate with dreams. It can also be difficult to stand up and follow your dreams when those around you are trying to differ your thoughts.
Wes Moore, on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, made an excellent point. Stop making those who don’t matter too much, matter too much. This message was given to me a few years ago as well by my counsellor. She told my husband and I that the decisions we make only affect those living under our roof. Other people were welcome to share their opinions, yet ultimately we had to do what is best for our family.Another of my favourite podcasts is Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft’s Happier. If you follow Gretchen, you would have heard of her Four Tendencies. According to the Four Tendencies, I am an Obliger. This suits me to a tee. Always doing what I think is going to make other people happy. Always following the rules and doing what I’m told is right. Doing what I truly want to do is often put on the back burner or kept as a dream. There are some ideas I have that I would like to pursue that I know I will be judged and criticized for. As well, my husband and I are working on a big life altering project right now. Which again, is met with some judgement and criticism from some. Although, it is also met with a lot of excitement and well wishing from others.
At that, I will leave you with this quote: All your dreams may come true if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney
Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.
Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.
Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.
After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.
My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.
I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.
I recently read an article regarding self-esteem of business professionals. This certainly hits home.
My husband and I own a business. Being an entrepreneur has certainly come with it’s own set of challenges. One challenge is being a self-motivator. As an entrepreneur, you do not always have people around to remind you of the great job you’re doing. There can be times when you are working long hours alone. Sometimes, the people we expect to be our greatest cheerleaders are not. It is very humbling when a cheerleader appears out of the blue from the people you least expect.
Being an entrepreneur can certainly be an emotional roller coaster. During the low times, it is important to keep trudging one step in front of the other.
As hard as it may be, you sometimes need to be your own cheerleader. You also need to be accepting of those unexpected cheerleaders.
Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long.
We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.
– Walt Disney
People are afraid. They are afraid of themselves. They are afraid of what they can accomplish. They are afraid of being alone. They are afraid of others. They are afraid of being judged. They are afraid of the unknown.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. – Isaiah 41:10
Always remember, this too shall pass.
In the life of doom and gloom it can be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
During the holidays, friends of ours invited us to watch Dreamworks, The Trolls. This colourful movie depicits looking at the brighter side of life.
We tend to be way to serious all the time. We need a reminder to hug, sing and dance once in awhile. It’s fun to let loose and be goofy. Dance offs are a regular occurrence in my household. In fact, my eldest daughter chooses to dance everywhere instead of walk. While my youngest is constantly singing.
I’d rather think that (the world) is mostly cupcakes and rainbows than be like you, all grey, all the time. – Dreamworks, The Trolls
Find something each day to put a smile on your face. Be grateful for what you have in front of you.
I’ll leave you with one more quote:
Happiness isn’t something you put inside you. It’s already there. Sometimes you just need someone to help you find it. – Dreamworks, The Trolls
Have you ever looked closely at a comic picture? The picture is made up of thousands of tiny dots. Up close it doesn’t look like much, yet step back and view the whole picture, and the scene comes to life.
Life can be like this too at times. Often we are so rushed that we end up only looking at each tiny dot on its own. We forget about the back story and we forget about the other dots that make the picture whole. We are quick to make judgements based on appearances alone.
Everyone is woven together into one big picture. Each of us is a dot in the masterpiece of life. Together, we make a beautiful piece of art.
Picture courtsey of: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roy_Lichtenstein
True happiness cannot be bought. It cannot be amassed at the sacrifice of others. True happiness is found within one self.
You cannot change another person to be happy. You cannot force another person to be happy. They must look inside to find their own happiness.
Everyone has a dark side. As much as everyone has a light side. The ying and yang seek to balance one another.
There will always be a battle between good and evil. What we must seek is the balance between the two.
Everyone can find their happy ever after if they are willing to seek it out.