In the eyes of a child

This is your midterm exam. You have 30 minutes to write…
…He hands us a paragraph that reads:
A self-actualized man arrives at a dinner party which everyone is dressed in rather formal attire. Evening dresses and suits and ties are worn by everyone. He is wearing a pair of dungarees, tennis shoes, a T-shirt, and a baseball cap. What does he do?
…After Dr. Redl has listened to each of us, he picks up his briefcase and slams it down on the seminar table in feigned indignation and outrage at our answers. “You have all failed this course…All you had to do was write three words on your paper.” He takes his chalk in his hand, turns around to the blackboard, and writes in large letters: HE WOULDN’T NOTICE.-Dr. Wayne Dyer, ICan See Clearly Now

As I read this passage I thought about the fashion sense of my children. They are both very individualized, and they both have their own sense of style. My oldest is more girly and likes to wear dresses and skirts; while my youngest daughter, for the most part, is more comfortable in a pair of leggings and a T-shirt. When they are given the freedom to choose their outfits and dress themselves, some of the combinations are certainly interesting. To them, they are proud of themselves and could care less about their clashing color choices. They “don’t notice.” To them, they are dressed in their favorite clothes and they are happy.

As I’m thinking about this, I believe we are all born with the great potential of becoming self-actualized people. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-actualization is to realize fully one’s potential.

Young children live in the now. They are generally happy beings full of imagination and potential. They can be anything they want to be.

Yet somewhere in life we lose that luster, and becoming self-actualized can become more difficult. We are shaped into a mould by society. We are forced to conform into the common beliefs. We are shunned if we wear something considered outrageous and out of the norm. Somewhere in life many of us lose that sense that we can be anything we want. We have had limits placed around us, and many people find it difficult to break past those limits.

What if we nurtured the self-actualizing behavior in children from a young age? Teach them to be individuals. Teach them the world is their oyster. Imagine all the possibilities that could come. Imagine children coming together to solve the world’s problems with love, compassion and passion. Imagine all the people, living life in peace. – John Lennon

We can do this. We can teach our children to become self-actualized. We can teach our children to find their full potential. We can one day live together in harmony with each other and in harmony with the Earth.



When you have a choice to be right or kind, always pick kind. Living from your highest spiritual sense is the essence of what it means to be a self-actualized person. – Dr. Wayne Dyer, I Can See Clearly Now