I think a lot of people need this advice today, so I’m not going to wait until next week to share it in my regular postings.
Yesterday at the end of the day at work, I felt very frustrated and angry at some of the stuff going on in my office. I was angry for the fact that I had now lost trust and faith in some people who are suppose to be there to provide guidance. Instead of getting the truth, I was getting what I wanted to hear.
There are actually many lessons that came out of this one little incident.
First of all, once I got to my bus stop I had vented my problems to a couple of people I ride the bus with. One lady reminded me that the bus ride home could be a good thing. When she got off the bus she asked if I was feeling better, and remarkably I was. After venting I reminded myself that I choose to no longer be angry at the world and fall into the traps of complaining and landing into a life of mediocrity, as Robin Sharma would put it. During the bus ride home, I was going to read a book, but I could not focus my mind. So instead I put on some great tunes, and started going over in my head things I was grateful for that day.
Here is my gratitude list:
- I went shopping at lunch with a couple of my co-workers
- I bought an awesome picture frame to display some photos of my wonderful girls at my desk
- I had 2 extraordinary daughters waiting for me at home
- I am eternally grateful to my husband for looking after the girls and working from home while I go into the office
- I have a commuter bus to ride on everyday to and from work so I don’t have to drive, and it gives me about an hour each way to contemplate the meaning of life
A gratitude list is an excellent way to focus on the positive aspects of life. I’d recommend for you to write down every night 5 things you were grateful for that day. Then the next morning when you wake up, review that list. After awhile, you find that your list may grow from 5 to 10 gratitudes a day, then from 10 to 15, and so forth. Also, whenever you feel yourself sinking into despair, start to go through in your mind, or pull out a piece of paper, or your smart phone, or a napkin, and start a gratitude list. This has helped me tremendously through many challenges I have faced over the last couple of years.
Another lesson that came out of my incident is a reminder that leaders need to act with a certain level of integrity and honesty. I have recently finished reading Robin Sharma’s book, The Leader Who Had No Title. This book nails that point home. There have been many changes going on in the company I work for, and I feel as though the time is now for me to “lead without a title.” My team currently feels it is without a formal leader, and we feel we have lost faith and trust in some people in management. Especially as business leader, leaders need to exhibit some level of trust and integrity. Without that, how can a company motivate its employees to excel in excellency? Ever since I returned to work I have been trying to see the bright side of everything and have faith in our management, and encourage those around me that change is a good thing. Especially since there seems to be a lot of double talk these days, it is going to be up to those on the front lines to motivate and encourage each other to strive for excellence despite the morale in our company. It is going to be up to those who “lead without a title” to shift the company back into the Best Employer’s list.
Remember in the midst of chaos to find time to find the beauty in life. Once I got home last night, I instantly felt rejuvenated, as I got to spend time with my wonderful daughters. They are young enough that they still live in the innocence of childhood. I marvel at what achievements they earn each day. My youngest loves to explore her surroundings and my oldest is starting to talk a lot more and wanted me to help her write some letters from the alphabet while we were doing Sudoku puzzles. As Rob Thomas sings, “Our lives are made in these small hours these little wonders, these twist & turns of fate time falls away, but these small hours, these small hours still remain…”
A couple of things to remember. Act with integrity in every part of your life, in both business and in your personal life. When you feel like you are sinking, go through a gratitude list to bring your focus back on the positives in life so you may be lifted into the light. Lastly, remember this old quote, “When the times get tough, the tough get going.” You can make it through any challenges in life when you focus on the positives.