Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.
Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.
Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.
After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.
My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.
I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.
I recently read an article regarding self-esteem of business professionals. This certainly hits home.
My husband and I own a business. Being an entrepreneur has certainly come with it’s own set of challenges. One challenge is being a self-motivator. As an entrepreneur, you do not always have people around to remind you of the great job you’re doing. There can be times when you are working long hours alone. Sometimes, the people we expect to be our greatest cheerleaders are not. It is very humbling when a cheerleader appears out of the blue from the people you least expect.
Being an entrepreneur can certainly be an emotional roller coaster. During the low times, it is important to keep trudging one step in front of the other.
As hard as it may be, you sometimes need to be your own cheerleader. You also need to be accepting of those unexpected cheerleaders.
Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long.
We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.
– Walt Disney
I was really touched by a story I read on Facebook yesterday about the group of Mormon missionaries who while helping clean up some of the devastation from hurricane Sandy found an old safe in a pile of rubble at a person’s house. The owner said to throw it in the trash, yet curiosity got the better of the missionaries. They were able to pry the safe open and found a couple of envelopes with nearly $25,000 cash inside. Being the good Mormons they are, they returned the cash to owner who then offered to give them the money. Of course they refused.
Only a spontaneous feeling of empathy with others can really inspire us to act on their behalf. Nevertheless, compassion does not arise mechanically. Such a sincere feeling must grow gradually, cultivated within each individual, based on their own conviction of its worth. Adopting a kind attitude thus becomes a personal matter. How each of us behaves in daily life is, after all, the real test of compassion. – Insight from the Dalai Lama
During this time of year we are bombarded by stories of compassion, giving and miracles. We are reminded to give to those in need, yet this message is often forgotten the rest of the year.
Lets show compassion and be an angel every day of the year, not just the 25 days before Christmas!
Another good insight from the Dalai Lama to share today.
As long as we live in this world, we are bound to encounter problems. If, at such times, we lose hope and become discouraged, we diminish our ability to face difficulties. If, on the other hand, we remember that it is not just ourselves but also everyone who has to undergo suffering, this more realistic perspective will increase our determination and capacity to overcome troubles. – Insight from the Dalai Lama
This is another wonderful quote, and one that suits my life right now. It is so easy to get trapped in having a pity party for yourself when things don’t go the way you expected them to go. The mind can easily twist and warp our perceptions into making situations seem far worse than they truly are. Remember you are not alone on your quest, and it is not always about you. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, we simply need to keep moving forward.