I had to remind myself of this song the other day.
So, Let them be little ’cause they’re only that way for awhile
Give them hope, give them praise, give them love everyday
Let them cry, let them giggle, let them sleep in the middle
Oh just let them be little
-Let them be little, Billy Dean
We all need to remind ourselves to let our kids be kids.
It was the second day of school. Our oldest daughter came home and was irritable. I thought it was because she was tired. I was tired, and hungry and getting frustrated with the full blown temper tantrum our little sweet cake was throwing. She was upset because my husband and I wouldn’t play with her. We wouldn’t play with her as we were trying to fix a leak near on of our chimneys that had sprung earlier that morning.
She was sent to her room to sit out her tantrum while we dealt with the attic. My husband and I were getting quite frustrated with her. When I finally had a few minutes we sat down and cuddled together. When I finally got her calm, I found out the root of the problem. No one played with her at recess.
The lesson I learned is we need to be patient with our children no matter how much they try our patience. By remaining calm and acting out of compassion we were able to solve her problem. The next day went much better as she learned she may need to ask to play with some of her friends.
Problems can be solved as long as we’re willing to stop and listen to one another.
This week embarks another school year. For our family it is a new milestone. Our oldest daughter starts Grade 1 at a school new to her. She is very excited as she already knows many friends from day care and dance. I think Mom and Dad are more nervous.
A friend of ours is a teacher at the school and we are doing a child swap in the mornings. We’re dropping off our daughter while picking up her daughter to take to preschool. Our friend offered to make sure our daughter makes it to the playground. My husband was nervous about leaving her at the playground. It would only be for about 10 minutes before the bell rings. For me I’m willing to let my little bird spread her wings and learn to fly. It is time.
In our crazy busy worlds it becomes to easy to get lost in all our activities, technologies, etc. At the end of the day we feel exhausted. Yet how many parents actually take time to spend with their children?
Spending time does not mean scarfing down a Big Mac and Happy Meal together while driving your kid to and from their after school activities. I mean truly spending time together.
I’m just as guilty of losing my temper and getting frustrated at the kids when all they truly want is some attention and cuddles.
I had read somewhere recently, before scolding your kids, ask yourself a couple questions.
• Are they hungry?
• Are they tired?
• Are they hurt?
• Or do they simply need some cuddle time?
Tonight was tough for me as I got upset at my daughter’s constant whining. It was upsetting me. I could tell she was definitely tired, and she was obviously hungry (she ate 3 bowls of Mac n’ Cheese), she also needed a few cuddles. Meanwhile, I also had to deal with her younger sister who keeps biting, pinching or pulling hair. I think this one simply does it for the reaction. I need to be more consistent in the discipline to get this one to stop the bad habits. I think I may have hit the marker in finding a weakness in her armor.
The best times together are those where you truly spend time with them. Let them help with chores or cooking. Do a craft; ride bikes; play a game they want to play; dance with them; play play dough; make a snowman; read to them; have a tickle fight; play superheroes/knights/or whatever else may fill their imaginations. There are so many things to do with kids. Be creative. Most importantly, don’t forget to show your love and give them a hug!
I wanted to share this posting from spirituallythinking.blogspot.com
Our children are so precious. Take time out of your busy day and actually spend some quality time with them. This includes turning off the “screens” as I had seen on another pin on Pinterest. I have been just as guilty as I half listen to my toddlers while checking Facebook. Who’s more important, your own child hitting a milestone, or receiving the text, tweet, status updat, etc that your bestie’s kid just hit a milestone.
Another friend of mine who developed the Conscious Pregnancy & Parenting Guide for the BodyMind Institute (www.bodymindinstitute.com/courses/bmi/conscious-pregnancy), had tried not to use her laptop in front of her child. When I started my blog, she asked how I was able to juggle everything. I said half the time I would write with one of my girls on my lap.
I have been guilty of telling my girls to wait a minute while I’ve been checking Facebook or Pinterest. The so called “Smart” phones are making it even easier for us to remain distant from one another.
I realized the other day I need to limit the usage of my phone in front of my kids. My 2 year old is obsessed with using anything as a phone. At least she pretends to be actually talking to people. While I caught my 3 year old playing with a toy that resembled my iPhone. She was off by herself while a friend was over for a play date. I then had to encourage her to socially interact with her friend. What a wake up call that was!
Get outdoors and play with your kids. Read to them; that is actually pick up the book and read it yourself. Turn off the tv, computer, smart phone, etc and actually ask them about their day. I love hearing about what adventures excited them, even if I can’t always understand what they are saying.
All I ask is to love your children! Be grateful they were blessed into your life! Now stop reading this, and go build a fort!