I have been listening to quite a few podcasts lately. All with a recurring theme of you are in charge of your life and your happiness.
Although it may be with good intentions and done because someone loves and cares about you; we often times receive advice that may not always resonate with dreams. It can also be difficult to stand up and follow your dreams when those around you are trying to differ your thoughts.
Wes Moore, on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, made an excellent point. Stop making those who don’t matter too much, matter too much. This message was given to me a few years ago as well by my counsellor. She told my husband and I that the decisions we make only affect those living under our roof. Other people were welcome to share their opinions, yet ultimately we had to do what is best for our family.Another of my favourite podcasts is Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft’s Happier. If you follow Gretchen, you would have heard of her Four Tendencies. According to the Four Tendencies, I am an Obliger. This suits me to a tee. Always doing what I think is going to make other people happy. Always following the rules and doing what I’m told is right. Doing what I truly want to do is often put on the back burner or kept as a dream. There are some ideas I have that I would like to pursue that I know I will be judged and criticized for. As well, my husband and I are working on a big life altering project right now. Which again, is met with some judgement and criticism from some. Although, it is also met with a lot of excitement and well wishing from others.
At that, I will leave you with this quote: All your dreams may come true if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney
Change is something we all fear. If something changes, we are afraid we will lose a part of something that once was.
Change is OK. The world is continually evolving. We evolved from living in caves being hunter gathers, to the great metropolis of modern society. We grow from babies, into children, then into adults. Each stage is a journey adding to who we are.
Look at a river. If you stay in one spot, a river is constantly changing. The landscape changes from season to season. A flood happens, and the area can change drastically in an instant. It took millions of years for the Grand Canyon to be formed. Whereas if we follow the water in a river, the vegetation and climate changes every so often.
After listening to Dr. Brene Brown on Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, I had my own “ah ha” moment. It is not that we fear change itself. Deep down inside, we fear shame. We fear not only failure, but also success. We have an underlying need to appease those around us.
My youngest daughter keeps telling me she simply wants to make people happy. I believe it is difficult to understand how to make someone else happy unless we truly understand how to make ourselves happy.
I feel a compelling urge to share my story. Even if it only for myself to reflect upon at a later date. For those closest to me, if you think this is about you, then move beyond it and get over yourself. I am grateful for who I was. I am grateful for who I will become. And I am grateful for who I am right now.
I recently read an article regarding self-esteem of business professionals. This certainly hits home.
My husband and I own a business. Being an entrepreneur has certainly come with it’s own set of challenges. One challenge is being a self-motivator. As an entrepreneur, you do not always have people around to remind you of the great job you’re doing. There can be times when you are working long hours alone. Sometimes, the people we expect to be our greatest cheerleaders are not. It is very humbling when a cheerleader appears out of the blue from the people you least expect.
Being an entrepreneur can certainly be an emotional roller coaster. During the low times, it is important to keep trudging one step in front of the other.
As hard as it may be, you sometimes need to be your own cheerleader. You also need to be accepting of those unexpected cheerleaders.
Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long.
We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.
– Walt Disney
Just as darkness resides in the light, light resides in the darkness.
In dark times, it is important to follow the light. The stars and the moon will light our way.
As an old Chinese proverb says, this to shall pass.
Life is beautiful. Like the shimmer of the moon on the fresh fallen snow. Find your glow and let it shine for all to see.
American Thanksgiving has recently passed, although we should make sure we are grateful everyday, and not just one day a year. This week there have been serveral things I have been grateful for. We had a big snow storm roll through the prairies this week and with it the temperatures plumetted. I was grateful for a snow day, as my car (which I nicknamed Santa’s sleigh) was in the shop. We braved the weather and picked it up in time to have for our winter driving.
I was also grateful to have the majority of our basement insulation finished, and also grateful for our furnace. There are still many people in our community who are without at least insulation, and a few still without furnaces. I am also grateful to be in my own home.
Whenever I have felt like I’ve been dipping into a downward spiral I start going through a gratitude list. Even if it only one small thing I can think of, it can often times turn a bad day into a good day. A good friend of mine was really struggling this week and was heading deeper into that spiral. I told her to think of at least one little thing to be grateful for. Even if it is something silly one of her kids did. And it helps.
Too often we forget to be grateful for the simple things. Even being grateful for being alive. We are where we need to be in each moment of time.
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